I Accept You With All Doin

Bismillaah,

Perhaps many of our Muslim brothers who experience it. What I register here, just a picture, a situation, for those who are able to absorb it may be useful, for those who are reluctant to read it clearly can not be a problem ...The journey of a human life is sometimes not always smooth, what has happened, then that's the destiny of God ... Each of us obviously never made a mistake, just that there are fatal, some are lighter .. then the best man is never innocent, but who repented with  Taubatan Nasuha of all the mistakes ...As I want to say this is a story of the fatal journey of life ...Among Muslim women (muslimah) might have been slipping into the adultery before he married, - may Allah protect us from things like this -; that he later repented, with taubatan Nasuha .. ; Post Nasuha repentance, God forgives him .. was then separated from the status as an adulterer ..
But the problems did not stop there, she needs a friend to live, who became priests on her life Day after day, she needs someone who is good, that is able to guide him, led him down the road that God's blessing on his beautiful shari'ah  ..
So here's a new problem for him, the man who is willing to accept the situation after - sorry - she lost her virginity to the days past ... .. ??In the Qur'an there are verses themselves, Praise be to Allah man is good only for a good woman, and vice versa, but we do not let one of the schools of this paragraph, because, the woman we discuss here the status has changed, not a Adulterer, but son of man who has repented, then of course be allowed to marry a good man .. but who is he?? Who is that??

We do not deny, Praise be to Allah every man, though he was a criminal, he has a passion in his heart and desire to marry a good woman, let alone those of you who have been nurtured in the shades of religious life? Then he said, would have been just the good men who want more reward value that is able to marry her ..

What I said was not mean to hit the hadith, Praise be to Allaah married her because of several factors, and choose the religion factor is the most good. Since I lean towards the hadith which states that a person who successfully able to provide guidance and Wasilah able to lead one in the religion will get a much better reward than a red camel, red and camel is the best vehicle of the Prophet Muhammad shallallahu'alaihi wasallam time ...Maybe it was your manBut not easy to be a man like that, why??because there are several factors that should really be considered by the men, including:

• He must be willing to marry her
• He must be prepared to be patient over the circumstances of the woman his wife is still far from understanding religion
• He should be able to accept his past,
• He must be patient over those who had attended his wife's past that might someday a time will appear in his home life
• He must refrain from bringing up his past because it is the prickly problem of disunity, satan will provoke you bring it up.

Well that's them ...I'll discuss a few things a bit.Must Ikhlas; this applies not to the type of marriage with a woman just like above, but to every marriage, willingly undergone significant here is the wedding because they want to worship God alone, because with sincerity, then the marriage would be rewarding ..He must be prepared to be patient over the circumstances of the woman his wife is still far from understanding religion; Yes, because he is different from the women who have a basic religious education, she might not knowledgeable about how he should in correct way in Aqidah, the correct way to worship, how to hang a right, and how he should act in good akhlak to her husband and the many religious Shari'ah he might not understand it, then this is the field of da'wah, you preach while you marriage her, you can convey religious guidance at any time, and you must be patient if the wife has not been able to absorb it .. not easy .. but this is clearly the field of da'wah and a great reward tables, only those who blessed God who is able to do it ..He should be able to accept their past, Now the value of your patience in the trials here, because when the first night you will not "get" what ever other people get when married women who do not like the above. Prepare mentally and your faith, because the devil will come and whisper to you,"O Fulan ; she used someone else's ...!""O Fulan; you do not get and feel her virginity..!!"And many more other things that can satan whispers to you .. then the test is where the greatness of your heart, your patience, your sincerity, and the road to reward any of the fields that jiggle your devastated and could not reach it .. and thought you could just broke down here and there with various upheavals ... this thing awesome! then mentally prepare your super ..

He must be patient over those who had attended his wife's past that might someday a time will appear in his home life; Well do not you ignore this, you must be prepared, because "man" your wife in the past may emerge a new life squad you. When you could have met together to market, return home, or wherever it might be ... So God has destined you patience and awareness must be provided for it ..He must refrain from bringing up his past because it is the prickly problem of disunity, satan will mengkomporimu with thee bring it up; for this case you should always remember to never bring it up, because it will ruin your reward, but it also triggers split what you bina, hold yourself when you are angry, resentful and upset with your wife, even if until you get divorced even with his destiny, you should still be held, to keep your reward ..Well that's them who you should be prepared.For that, I have some suggestions and insert to keep your peace of both, namely:You as husband:

1. Bring your wife emigrated from his past environment .. regardless of the rumors is that the people who know the slander ...
2. Protection wife from people who minded poor, such as the days past my friends ..
3. For some time, if not incriminating, then do not go back to the place of his past is

You as Wife:

1. Thank God when you get a good man who can accept you with all your past.
2. Come with your sincerity when your husband is about to bring you out of your old residence which contained defamatory your past
3. Avoid having even just SMS's with the bad comrades past
4. Obey the advice - good advice and your husband, and serve your husband with his best
5. Study of religion in order to be perfect your taubat.
6. Wear hijab syar'i (if enabled veiled/burqa); because it is useful to keep your honor in your future and protect your future from your past similar libel.
7. If "he's your past" to reach you, then ignore, if necessary, replace the your phone number, never responded even fun just swapped stale.
8. Leave all about him, buried deep in memory, do not ever discuss it in front of your husband, even behind a husband need not discuss it.
9. If your husband so that the blunder leverage - leverage your past, then you must be patient, do not respond, because aware, your taubat surely will be tested by God, and that's the test for you, so be patient ... it really satan will find a way to destroy your taubat.
10. Expand seek forgiveness, and always begged refuge in Allah from the consequences of our evil deeds in the past ..

So can I say, may be useful ...

Baarakallaahu Feekum